Sekarang nie kan kecoh pasal pasangan retis yg konon dh putus, then mcm hanging aje relationship diaorg tu kan.
I dont want to comment much about their relationship because it is none of my business. Apa yang aku nak kupas nie, is more towards communication skills when one is in a relationship.
Communication plays a very important role in our daily lifes. Bila ada communication breakdown, memang ler akan ada problem besar. Ehh....apa aku merepek nie. The geist of the whole thing is, kalau rasa2 dah tak boleh berkomunikasi seperti manusia bertamadun, bila maki hamun dan cacian dah jadi sebahagian daripada routine, it is time for you to decide either to stay or just move on. Tak ada gunanya to keep on being in an abusive relationship. Abusive here means either emotionally or physically. Kalau yg involve part physical tu, it is the more better reason for one to exit. Kalau sebelum kahwin dah pandai2 angkat tangan dan pukul perempuan, apatah lagi kalau dah berkahwin, entah2 mati disembelih aje.
One thing that I fail to understand is why some women still want to be in this kind of relationship. They always have the option to just angkat kaki and leave, but why? Terlalu takut kepada pasangan kah atau mereka menjadi "cair" setelah dipujuk rayu? Setakat nie, alhamdulillah, aku tak pernah lagi terlibat dgn abusive partner. Bagi aku, kalau once lelaki yang belum sah jadi milik kita dah angkat tangan, itu tanda nya dia dayus dan tak hormati wanita. And mintak2 dijauhkan lar dgn golongan2 seperti ini.
To be in a relationship requires mutual understanding and respect, to be able to accept one's strengths and weaknesses and to be able to talk/discuss matters/problems in a civilised way. Kalau criteria2 tersebut tiada, memang tak ke mana lar perhubungan itu.
Nota kaki: you are not an abusive, hot tempered man, right sayang??
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